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What Do Emotionally Healthy Masculine Men Want?

Uncategorized Aug 02, 2021

Do you struggle in finding enjoyable dates and turning them into fulfilling long-term relationships?

If you are, it could be because you, like most women, don’t understand what men really want… or you assume that men only want one thing: sex.

Figuring out what men want is hard, isn’t it?

It seems like it gets harder every day with all the dating apps and the faulty love advice you get from the internet.

Which is a shame, really, because understanding your date and future partner is a big part of getting into a great relationship.

What DO men want?

I don’t have to guess what men want... I coach men and speak with them regularly.

Successful, kind and authentic men understand and embrace their masculinity and I share that information with my clients so they are prepared and can date more effectively with this knowledge.

Consistently, regardless of age, ethnicity, or career, men want the same things.

So I’m not going to hold it back from you ladies!...

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Why men neglect nice women and go for the feisty BADASS WOMAN

Uncategorized Jun 18, 2021

You cared about him…
listened to him…
gave him your all…
But what did he do?
broke his promises…
took you for granted…

and later you find him in the arms of a woman who doesn’t treat him as well as you do.

Sounds familiar?

This is the story of some ladies in our group.

They meet a man they like…
fall for him deeply…
make him their world…

only to be rejected sooner or later in one form or another.

Why?

Because they caught the Nice Girl Syndrome.

The Nice Girl Syndrome is when a lady becomes too nice and self-sacrificial that she loses her value in the eyes of her man.

How does this happen? Is it wrong to be nice?

No, ladies. There is nothing wrong with being nice. But sometimes (and we often don’t know this), we are nice NOT because we genuinely want to be, but because of our insecurities. We are scared that if we don’t do our best for other people, they won’t love or accept us… or they will leave us. So...

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How To Not Feel Alone And Sad This Valentine’s Day

Uncategorized Feb 12, 2021
It’s the time of the year again when you scroll through your Facebook feed and see ‘evidence’ of your loneliness.
 
You see your colleagues and friends post about what a great time they’re having with their loving partner while you’re all by yourself, throwing yourself into work or friends to keep yourself busy.
 
Thoughts go through your head like:
 
...how easily your ex-husband had moved on, and will be enjoying Valentine’s Day with his new partner… while you stay stuck, unable to find real happiness even though it’s been years since your separation…
 
...how you long for quality conversations with a man you can be totally honest and connect with… and why do others get to enjoy love and intimacy when you don’t…
 
...Is it still possible for you to meet someone who will care for you the way you deserve to be cared for, someone who is your equal and...
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Face Your Separation or Divorce Without Being Triggered By Your Ex

Uncategorized Feb 12, 2021
Why bother spending time trying to be ok with the divorce if it’s not necessary to really move forward?
 
Do you sometimes feel that you are dragging the huge weight of your divorce around with you?
 
Many ladies tell me they feel tired and exhausted...
 
They thought it'd be easier than it is...
 
They often feel like things will get better once the settlement is done...
 
Or the divorce is finalized...
 
Or when their ex leaves them alone...
 
Often just as they are starting to get some normality into their life,
something else happens..,
 
He may get a girlfriend...
 
Or get married...have a baby
 
Or there is a family event...
 
And they feel like it's just another thing for them to have to contend with...
 
All their emotions are reenacted and their brain goes into overdrive....
 
They can't sleep...
 
They are angry and then sad...
 
...
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Comfort Is The Enemy Of Your Progress

Uncategorized Feb 11, 2021
If you're still making sure it's the right move and planning for how not to get hurt again, you could be hurting your results.
 
Sounds crazy, but it's true.
I talk to a lot of ladies that acknowledge comfort is their worst enemy. And they assume that because they know it they aren't doing it.
 
The reality is a woman who's comfortable is a woman who's stopped trying to improve herself and many of them haven't even noticed they stopped trying a long time ago.
 
That's why they call well-paying jobs "golden handcuffs"... Because people with well-paying jobs can pay the bills and live well, and are relatively happy so they have no desire to improve.
 
If you are in your comfort zone, it may feel good right now but it’s probably causing you harm in the future.
 
Pain and discomfort don't feel nice when it is happening but it is what strengthens you, teaches you resilience, and makes you wiser for the future.
 
Plain and...
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How To Deal With In-Laws Who Don't Like You

Uncategorized Feb 03, 2021
How many of you ladies have been a daughter-in-law? How many of you are a Mother-in-law?
 
What have you learnt for being in either role?
 
I was talking to a client today and told her this story about my own mother-in-law and thought you may find it relevant and you may be able to learn something from the lessons I learnt from being a daughter-in-law.
 
I had a Mother-In-Law who was a great mentor for me... She showed me how to cook and sew, and she also showed me many things that I never wanted to be.
 
I now have a Daughter-In-Law and I think she's amazing. I see so many beautiful traits in her and the best one is, that she makes my son so happy!
 
As a Mother-in-law, you'd think that's what everyone would want, wouldn't you? You'd like to think so, but unfortunately (or fortunately) that wasn't the case with my mother-in-law.
 
My Mother-in-law never loved or accepted me. She wasn't a happy woman, she was a hypochondriac,...
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Does accepting your flaws diminish you?

Uncategorized Feb 03, 2021
Many Women fear accepting those things about themselves which they dislike, are unhappy about, or wish to change.
 
They fear that accepting such things will mean that they will fall into complacency. That fighting those things is what is needed for everything to not completely spiral out of control. We could be talking about a multitude of things here: Our weight, our lack of motivation or self-discipline, our lack of patience, our impulse control, etcetera.
 
The truth is, when we are not in self-acceptance we are often guilt-driven.
We guilt ourselves over our decisions, we reprimand ourselves, we berate and degrade ourselves. We obliterate our self-esteem. We disempower ourselves. We begin to feel less and less in control over our decisions and actions. We begin operating in fear. What will our next screw up be? How bad will it be this time? Why is this always happening? Now, we are spiraling out of control! The very thing we thought would save us, is now...
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What Are The Things That Really Matter For You To Be Happy?

Uncategorized Feb 03, 2021

I've adapted this post by Richard Branson to make it my own.

Take a moment to read this before bed tonight. You'll be happy you did 
Post your own version so we can see and celebrate the most important things in your life...

"Dear Friends,

You know me as Fiona May and I hear some of you are going through a tough time, and I would like to help you. I want to be open and honest with you, and let you know that happiness isn’t something just afforded to a special few. It can be yours if you take the time to let it grow.

It’s OK to be stressed, scared and sad, I certainly have been throughout my 50 years on earth. I’ve confronted my biggest fears time and time again. I’ve cheated death on many adventures, seen loved ones pass away, been challenged in business, minced my words in front of tough audiences, and had my heart broken and had to find my way through the craziness of a divorce I never thought I'd have!

I know I’m fortunate to live an...

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Do you find yourself remembering the good, the bad and everything about him?

Uncategorized Feb 03, 2021

If you do and you can't stop thinking about your ex, read on...

Every minute you spend one minute thinking about him is one minute you are not spending time thinking about yourself and your future. It's crazy and you literally have to growl at yourself and choose a different thought every time your mind goes there.

He's controlling your thoughts because you are allowing him to and whenever you do it, you are getting a payoff. That's why people stay stuck. Your payoff is a reward, and the thought that he may be unhappy, or karma will catch up with him or he'll come back or he's sorry, and suffering is you just wanting to be right and make him wrong.

Whilst you hold onto the judgement you can never be free.

Every time you find yourself thinking about him, STOP yourself by choosing a different thought and focus on something you can do in that minute that will benefit yourself.

You just have to accept the reality of the situation and you don't have to understand it, or get an apology...

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Last night was date night...

Uncategorized Jan 29, 2021
I had a busy day in the office and flew up the stairs to get ready at 6 pm. I was met by Paul who was already showered, dressed, smelling divine and looking spunky.
 
I chose a dress and shoes. I was excited. I love date night... I jumped in the shower, shaved my legs and put my makeup on. It felt so nice to get dressed up and I felt good.
 
I walked out into the kitchen and Paul said, ”you look beautiful” and as he kissed me, he nuzzled into my neck and breathed in my perfume.
 
We took an uber and went to one of our favourite little restaurants. The chef is French and he always comes out and chats at our table and explains each dish we order.
 
We were having a lovely night, a delicious meal, our favourite wine, lots of laughing, and sharing our plans... I looked up and saw a lady in her 50’s being shown the table next to us. She sat down but looked uneasy and uncertain. I felt a tinge of sadness for her as I sensed she hadn't...
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