The problem with Coping Strategies is they are just bandaids... they just cover up the real issues and numb you to what's really going on within you.
It causes a disconnect and you can FEEL IT!
You know what is going on inside you is different to what you are showing the world - AND YOU FEEL LIKE A FRAUD!
Every day we talk to people all over who use bandaids to manage their problems but never actually solve the underlying issues.
When things aren't working in your life, it causes you to feel stuck and frustrated.
Whether you are:
- Putting on weight and can't lose it
- Trapped in a job or a business that you hate
- Always in your head with a brain that doesn't turn off
- Have struggled to have happy & meaningful relationships
You probably feel like you have been on a treadmill and take one foot forward and land on your bum, ten-foot back...
You feel like you make a bit of "progress"...and then something happens and you crash. Life just seems to throw you one thing after another, and...
What do you think it takes in order to become the “best version of you”?
Do you think that when I suggest that we all need to be better, it is diminishing or an insult?
I know people always say to “just love yourself exactly as you are” and some see it as a negative comment when I suggest that they could “change”.
It goes without saying that we should “love ourselves as we are”… but I also think that part of loving ourselves is doing what it takes to raise and adopt new levels of understanding, Education is power when it's adopted and implemented.
If you are totally happy with your life, relationship, finances, appearance and everything else, I'd say just keep doing what you are doing, as you are happy…
But is doing nothing standing still OR actually going backwards???
If you decide to just stand still, won’t the world and life continue to change and evolve around you? So, is it true to say that you wouldn’t...
Gratitude — The quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return the kindness. Today you will start a Gratitude Journal to learn how you can reap the numerous benefits of gratitude and how to create a regular gratitude journal practice.
It can transform your life and open up incredible opportunities for love, joy, and success.
It shifts your perspective and helps you find the good in each and every moment.
Science tells us that an “attitude of gratitude” is a good health choice. Being more grateful more often makes us happier and more optimistic. But gratitude also adds to the bottom line – in very real ways. And the best news about gratitude is that it requires little time and no money.
Here are five reasons gratitude improves your productivity and results:
Gratitude attracts what we want. The universal law of attraction says that we will attract into our life the things we think about and focus on....
Personal Boundaries – What Are They and Why Do We Have Them…
Boundaries are the limits and rules we set for how close we allow others to get to us and how we conduct ourselves and our lives in relationship to others.
Many people have a belief that if their kids, partner and everyone else is happy, they'll be happy and they do everything within their power to make that happen – often at their own expense.
It's not true and it’s not healthy for us to live like this.
When we believe this we have poor boundaries and get caught up in other people’s problems and treat their issues as if they are our own. We set ourselves up to fail, be mistreated, manipulated or used.
We need to recognise that everyone is on their own journey and not become overly involved in other people's business and concentrate on our own lives. We need to appreciate and recognise their boundaries and not try to solve or fix them, and deal with reality, not what we'd like it to be. We...
Asking yourself if you've done enough work and Relationship Ready before stepping out is vital!
Often women jump into relationships or stumble across someone and start to date. They then spin out and are flooded by a million questions and their mind starts to go crazy.
They don’t know how to act or how to handle themselves and their emotions. All their senses are heightened, fear is pulsating through their bodies and it is a super stressful time.
They don’t know if they can trust, is he is the one, they over analyse and think about everything he says trying to work out what he means, if he likes them, is this the beginning of something or is he a liar, cheater, player or scammer…
Your old patterns will be brought up, your defences are in a state of heightened awareness and you heart and head will be in a whirlpool.
This is why it’s so important to be relationship ready and have done your work so you are prepared and equipped to handle dating and a...
I'm so proud of Joanne for graduating from The Shine Program. Congratulations Joanne.
Joanne was similar to a lot of you ladies and was ready to step out and date, but wasn't sure where to start.
Joanne entered The Shine Program 9 weeks ago. She's now got a plan, goals and new skills which will ensure her success.
I have no doubt 2019 is going to be a big year for her and I'm sure she'll be sharing a photo of a new magnificent man with us soon. She's worked hard and deserves everything that is on its way to her.
I thought you may be interested in her journey and join with me in congratulating her on her success. ?
This is her journey in her words:
Before the Shine Program, I was living in a state of uncertainty. I wasn’t moving forward after my divorce and felt as if I didn’t know how. I most definitely feared to step out into the dating world as I didn’t feel I knew what I wanted and most definitely worried I would pick the same type of man again. I...
Does the thought of your kids spending time with the OW make you feel sick?
I was talking to a lady I coach yesterday who was challenged because her ex and his new girlfriend were having her kids for the weekend.
She was feeling sick and completely crushed and wanted to know how to handle it.
Have you felt like this?
It is hard to have another woman around your kids, so I had to get her to be conscious of why she was feeling this way and what she had to do so she was ok with it.
I explained that how she behaves will have consequences, and she has to get clear on what she really wants for her kids.
She loves her kids and yet, she didn't want what she knew she had to do. Through processing her own fears, she realised she didn't want them to be in an environment where they feel uncomfortable and dividing their love.
But that bought up all sorts of fears and pain for her.
She felt she owned them and didn't want to share them. It was painful, extremely painful because she had a dream of...
This is very true and also relevant after divorce.
Sometimes with divorce, it is all of this plus the fact that the person still has the ability to affect you and will continue to influence you if you allow it.
I know when there are kids and shared property involved there feels like there is no completion however once you deal with that and put some workable solutions in place, it gets better.
This brings up a lot of fear as many ladies who find themselves single worry about their security, future finances, employment, have custody concerns, contact and visitation issues etc. So you need to look after your own well-being and heal so you can confidently deal with all of these challenges.
By accepting your new reality, you can logically find and pave a way forward where you learn what you need to know to move on with your new life.
Everything changes, but it doesn't have to be a bad thing. The future can be better than you've ever had because you are now in the driver's seat! This is...
Do you have a nagging little voice in your head who is your own inner critic? Is your little voice saying nasty things about you and trying to limit what you say and do?
If you are conscious of your inner critic, you are not alone! Everyone has one and it often sabotages your success by stopping you from doing anything that it fears may be dangerous or unsafe. Whilst that's a good thing if you are in danger, it's not a great thing 90% of the time as it stops and limits you experiencing life and living in your true power.
Our inner voice is run on our fears.
Another name some people call our inner voice is our “monkey mind”. According to Buddhist principles, listening to our “monkey mind” often leaves us feeling unsettled, restless, or confused.
Your Monkey Mind is the part of your brain most connected to the ego, which contends that you can’t do anything right. It’s also the part of you that stifles healing and growth by preventing you from moving...
Has Your Journey Been Worth It?…. Have you Made Lemonade From Your Lemons…
At first, I was so sad, hurt and I suffered when my “Husbeen” suddenly left me…
But now I can look back and reflect on the past with gratitude and love…
How do you describe your personal journey post-divorce?
Has time healed you?
Are you happier and more confident after your divorce?
Has all your hoping and praying served you and have you moved on to create a new life?
Time doesn't always heal I know… Some people get stuck and life goes downhill after their divorce, they lose what little confidence they had and often slide into depression… They feel powerless to change and don't know how to escape the craziness… and many become victims and blame everyone else for their pain…
Looking back I describe my post-divorce journey like this;
I loved my “Husbeen” for 30 years and are so grateful for the time we had together.
I still respect...