I've adapted this post by Richard Branson to make it my own.
Take a moment to read this before bed tonight. You'll be happy you did 😘
Post your own version so we can see and celebrate the most important things in your life...
You know me as Fiona May and I hear some of you are going through a tough time, and I would like to help you. I want to be open and honest with you, and let you know that happiness isn’t something just afforded to a special few. It can be yours if you take the time to let it grow.
It’s OK to be stressed, scared and sad, I certainly have been throughout my 50 years on earth. I’ve confronted my biggest fears time and time again. I’ve cheated death on many adventures, seen loved ones pass away, been challenged in business, minced my words in front of tough audiences, and had my heart broken and had to find my way through the craziness of a divorce I never thought I'd have!
I know I’m fortunate to live an extraordinary life, and that most people would assume my business success, and the lifestyle that comes with it, have brought me happiness. But they haven’t; in fact it’s the reverse. I am successful, wealthy and connected because I choose to be happy.
So many people get caught up in doing what they think will make them happy but, in my opinion, this is where they fail. Happiness is not about doing, it’s about being. In order to be happy, you need to think consciously about it. Don’t forget the to-do list, but remember to write a to-be list too.
Kids are often asked: ‘What do you want to be when you grow up?’ The world expects grandiose aspirations: ‘I want to be a writer, a doctor, the prime minister.’ They’re told: go to school, go to college, get a job, get married, and then you’ll be happy.
But that’s all about doing, not being – and while doing will bring you moments of joy, it won’t necessarily reward you with lasting happiness.
Stop and breathe. Be healthy. Be around your friends and family. Be there for someone, and let someone be there for you. Be bold. Just BE, for a minute.
If you allow yourself to BE in the moment, and appreciate the moment, happiness will follow.
I speak from experience. I've built a successful business, had conversations and made decisions about other people's future, attended many events and met many so-called special people. And while these things have brought me great joy, it’s the moments that I stopped just to BE, rather than do, that have given me true happiness. Why? Because allowing yourself just to BE, puts things into perspective. Try it. Be still. Be present.
For me, it’s having a partner who sees my soul, the coral and little fish on the reefs, walking my son down the isle... It’s seeing my daughter eating ice cream, hearing the roar of my big fellas laugh. It’s having the extended family and friends over for christmas dinner. It’s the smile on a stranger’s face, it's the beautiful women in my group, and the smell of rain. It’s the warm of a summers day, the sunset over the water, the red dust of the Australian outback, fishing and sitting around a camp fire and falling asleep under the stars. It's the first winter rain and the lilly buds opening.
There’s a reason we’re called human beings and not human doings. As human beings we have the ability to think, move and communicate in a heightened way. We can cooperate, understand, reconcile and love, that’s what sets us apart from most other species.
Don’t waste your human talents by stressing about nominal things, or that which you cannot change. If you take the time simply to be and appreciate the fruits of life, your stresses will begin to dissolve, and you will be happier.
But don’t just seek happiness when you’re down. Happiness shouldn’t be a goal, it should be a habit. Take the focus off doing, and start being every day. Be loving, be grateful, be helpful, and be a spectator to your own thoughts. Be aware.
Allow yourself to be in the moment, and appreciate the moment. Take the focus off everything you think you need to do, and start being – I promise you, happiness will follow.
PS. If you're tired of struggling, If you've had enough pain and trauma and you know you can't let another day go by existing, living an unspent life - then just book some time in my calendar to find out how you can turn your life around TODAY!
If you are committed, coachable and ready to invest in yourself so you can have an outstanding future, I'll be able to help you. You can watch our Free Training here: https://www.womenontransition.com/free-training-CSM
I have some other tools or resources I can offer you to get you started. Either way, I want to help you be happy and not waste your life.