Everyone says “just Love Yourself” but it's easier said than done… The problem is that most women don't even know-how and most have forgotten who they once did it!
They were once funny, happy, playful, trusting, inquisitive, adventurous, and started off their life journey as an excited little girl, who had big dreams, goals and desires.
But sadly, over time everything that those little girls knew and wanted was slowly chipped away at and their self-esteem and beliefs started to fade.
It happens slowly, bit by bit as they listen to what they are being told, hear, see and eventually they just accept how they are being treated.
It usually takes a life-changing event for them to stop and the come to the sheer realisation that they don't now know who they are and they feel lost.
This brings them to a point of recognising that the hopes and dreams they once held and aspired to, whom they thought they'd grow up to be, isn't the women they see when they look in the...
I often talk about the need for Women to attract a Magnificent Masculine man... I was asked by a client yesterday exactly what do I mean by that... We discussed it and to her, it was a very foreign concept.
She told me that she didn't even know any men that fitted that description. She thought masculine men were egotistical, big muscle, bad boys - but that is as far away from the truth as possible and not who a conscious magnificent masculine man is. She said her Ex wasn't like that, her Dad was not even emotionally available and she really struggled to understand.
It got me thinking and I thought I'd explain some of the traits here of how a Magnificent Masculine Man shows up...
A man who has high levels of integrity.
A Magnificent man is interested in a woman who is natural.
Creates a safe space for communication.
True to his word.
Consistent, especially through difficult times.
He is not afraid of criticism.
Comfortable in his own skin.
Accepts his faults and faces up to mistakes.
Do you truly love and acknowledge yourself?
Of course, I know you're doing your best and probably you do....but you'll be surprised at how many women believe at a subconscious level that they aren’t enough and don't love themselves. It’s often evident on how they treat themselves.
How do you show up - confidently, in integrity, trusting, honest and authentic???
Self-care is one of the most important ways to love yourself. With so much going on around you and inside of you when do you find time to pay attention to yourself to ensure you are in a healthy space mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.
We sometimes get the impression that we should put others before ourselves because if not it means we are selfish.
It's very noble to help others and pour into others but from where is this act coming from? Is it coming from a full or empty vessel? There are many ways you can show yourself love and it may differ from person to person but here are some ways I practise...
At first, I needed and tried to make sense of it. I struggled so much, cried so many tears, felt worthless like I’d been traded in for a younger model and I doubted anyone would ever want me.
As time went on and I got the clarity, I started to work through my pain. I knew I was stuck and hurting and I didn't want to be living the way I was. I didn't want to be broken be sad.
For me, I had to just go and do my work and become whole again and I did that through surrounding myself with positive role models and discovering a whole swag of new tools and choosing to be the best version of myself possible.
You can and will get through this IF YOU WANT TO!
What happened doesn't have to define you and you have the right and you deserve to be living the life you actually choose - not the one you find yourself in! I wanted to create a new story for my life going forward. I have used it as an opportunity to start again.
I'm actually now so grateful that my husband left me, as I am doing...
As a woman who constantly strives for success, many of us feel obligated to keep going, and going, and going.
A big burden has been placed on the independent, modern woman. You’re required to be a super mom who can take your children to soccer practice, and violin lessons, while having a career so you’re “not just a mom”, while being an amazing wife who must keep fit and attractive for your husband, while maintaining a home that must be clean, and ever so slightly elegant, and cozy.
Whew! That’s a lot!
As a mom, you know everyone’s schedule, allergies, food preferences, clothing size, extracurricular activities, and other information.
You’re the one who knows how long the milk will last, how much bread to buy, and when to buy it, where the extra trash bags are stored, and when your mother-in-law wants to visit, when the PTA is, and whose your child’s best friends, their parents, and their contact information. And, most everyone in your...
Did your ex make you feel beautiful? Or did he make you feel unattractive?
Some women can only see themselves as beautiful when they have makeup on. Some when they do their morning yoga coupled with that not-so-delicious-but-absolutely-necessary detox shake. While others still only feel it through the eyes of a lover.
Sadly, some women, and maybe you’re one of them, DO NOT FEEL BEAUTIFUL AT ALL - no matter what they do, and no matter who tells them that they are.
It can be easy to feel unattractive because of your age, weight gain, or any number of things, especially after struggling with divorce. But one thing you might fail to realize is that there is ONLY ONE PERSON that can make you feel ugly or beautiful! And I’m sure you know that.
The decision to look at yourself, feel beautiful, be beautiful, stay beautiful is all up to you.
I knew my worth, and yet I always felt that I wasn’t attractive, even when others told me I was. That only changed when I started to...
Most people carry inner childhood and abandonment wounds. Even those who came from "good" families...
This causes them to not feel seen, heard or supported. This also manifests into feelings of not being good enough, not being loveable and the belief that what they want isn't available to them.
They also attract partners who are emotionally wounded and unavailable because they bond over their brokenness.
Does this sound familiar. You only have to listen to the little voice in your head and if it says anything remotely negative to you, you have the wounds I'm talking about.
There is an antidote though...As when we validate ourselves from within, by giving our inner child the love and support it needs, we heal this broken template within us.
Being afraid is the baseline emotion for most people and it started in their childhood. They don't feel seen, heard or supported. They are constantly fighting for their survival which really puts them in a loop of chaos for many years.
Did your resolution for 2020 work out for you
It's fast approaching the end of the year and what a year it's been‼
I'm sure this one is going to go down in history for most of us...
But, for a few of us, it was an absolutely amazing year...
I've got so much to celebrate and I must say for my team and I, It's been an outstanding year and we are so honoured to have been chosen and trusted to help hundreds of ladies change their lives...
Here are some of what our amazing clients have done in 2020
All my clients stepped up and rediscover the amazing women they were inside... because many had lost themselves and didn't even know who they were...
Many went for that promotion they been putting off and finally asked for a wage rise - and got it after years of living in denial of their worth!
Many left unhealthy relationships and ventured out on their own into the wilderness of singleton and are doing great...
Others picked themselves up, dusted themselves off, put on their captains'...