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The Social Pressure of Wanting or not a Partner Again

Uncategorized Jan 15, 2021
I answered a question from a lady this morning where she asked if other women were not attracted or interested in men at all after divorce.
 
This is my answer and I thought it may be relevant to the ladies here.
 
"At first, I was also the same. I used to look around and think the men I saw were all deadheads and I was not attracted to anyone. Looking back it was a defence mechanism.
 
It’s was a way of keeping myself safe and something we do to protect ourselves. Let’s face it, you never have another relationship you can be happy and never get hurt, right???...
 
Right and Wrong...
 
There are consequences for every decision we make.
Whilst we may protect ourselves, we need to also ask ourselves what is taking that stand going to cost us.
 
I’d say that you need to look at why you feel like that... what thoughts, feelings and emotions are running through you. Is having a loving, committed relationship...
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How’s Your Self Loving Going?

Uncategorized Jan 15, 2021

Do you truly love and acknowledge yourself?

Of course, I know you're doing your best and probably you do....but you'll be surprised at how many women believe at a subconscious level that they aren’t enough and don't love themselves. It’s often evident on how they treat themselves.

How do you show up - confidently, in integrity, trusting, honest and authentic???

Self-care is one of the most important ways to love yourself. With so much going on around you and inside of you when do you find time to pay attention to yourself to ensure you are in a healthy space mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

We sometimes get the impression that we should put others before ourselves because if not it means we are selfish.

It's very noble to help others and pour into others but from where is this act coming from? Is it coming from a full or empty vessel? There are many ways you can show yourself love and it may differ from person to person but here are some ways I practise...

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How do you feel about your breakup?

Uncategorized Jan 15, 2021

At first, I needed and tried to make sense of it. I struggled so much, cried so many tears, felt worthless like I’d been traded in for a younger model and I doubted anyone would ever want me.

As time went on and I got the clarity, I started to work through my pain. I knew I was stuck and hurting and I didn't want to be living the way I was. I didn't want to be broken be sad.

For me, I had to just go and do my work and become whole again and I did that through surrounding myself with positive role models and discovering a whole swag of new tools and choosing to be the best version of myself possible.

You can and will get through this IF YOU WANT TO!
What happened doesn't have to define you and you have the right and you deserve to be living the life you actually choose - not the one you find yourself in! I wanted to create a new story for my life going forward. I have used it as an opportunity to start again.

I'm actually now so grateful that my husband left me, as I am doing...

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Being Tired Is Not A Sin

Uncategorized Jan 13, 2021

As a woman who constantly strives for success, many of us feel obligated to keep going, and going, and going.

A big burden has been placed on the independent, modern woman. You’re required to be a super mom who can take your children to soccer practice, and violin lessons, while having a career so you’re “not just a mom”, while being an amazing wife who must keep fit and attractive for your husband, while maintaining a home that must be clean, and ever so slightly elegant, and cozy.

Whew! That’s a lot!

As a mom, you know everyone’s schedule, allergies, food preferences, clothing size, extracurricular activities, and other information.


You’re the one who knows how long the milk will last, how much bread to buy, and when to buy it, where the extra trash bags are stored, and when your mother-in-law wants to visit, when the PTA is, and whose your child’s best friends, their parents, and their contact information. And, most everyone in your...

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Did Your Ex Make You Feel Unattractive?

Uncategorized Jan 05, 2021

Did your ex make you feel beautiful? Or did he make you feel unattractive?

Some women can only see themselves as beautiful when they have makeup on. Some when they do their morning yoga coupled with that not-so-delicious-but-absolutely-necessary detox shake. While others still only feel it through the eyes of a lover.

Sadly, some women, and maybe you’re one of them, DO NOT FEEL BEAUTIFUL AT ALL - no matter what they do, and no matter who tells them that they are.

It can be easy to feel unattractive because of your age, weight gain, or any number of things, especially after struggling with divorce. But one thing you might fail to realize is that there is ONLY ONE PERSON that can make you feel ugly or beautiful! And I’m sure you know that.

The decision to look at yourself, feel beautiful, be beautiful, stay beautiful is all up to you.

I knew my worth, and yet I always felt that I wasn’t attractive, even when others told me I was. That only changed when I started to...

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Abandoned Inner Child

Uncategorized Dec 30, 2020

Most people carry inner childhood and abandonment wounds. Even those who came from "good" families...

This causes them to not feel seen, heard or supported. This also manifests into feelings of not being good enough, not being loveable and the belief that what they want isn't available to them.


They also attract partners who are emotionally wounded and unavailable because they bond over their brokenness.


Does this sound familiar. You only have to listen to the little voice in your head and if it says anything remotely negative to you, you have the wounds I'm talking about.


There is an antidote though...As when we validate ourselves from within, by giving our inner child the love and support it needs, we heal this broken template within us.


Being afraid is the baseline emotion for most people and it started in their childhood. They don't feel seen, heard or supported. They are constantly fighting for their survival which really puts them in a loop of chaos for many years.


To move...

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Who Had These As Their New Year's Resolution?

Uncategorized Dec 29, 2020

Did your resolution for 2020 work out for you

It's fast approaching the end of the year and what a year it's been‼

I'm sure this one is going to go down in history for most of us...

But, for a few of us, it was an absolutely amazing year...

I've got so much to celebrate and I must say for my team and I, It's been an outstanding year and we are so honoured to have been chosen and trusted to help hundreds of ladies change their lives...

Here are some of what our amazing clients have done in 2020

‍ All my clients stepped up and rediscover the amazing women they were inside... because many had lost themselves and didn't even know who they were...

Many went for that promotion they been putting off and finally asked for a wage rise - and got it after years of living in denial of their worth!

Many left unhealthy relationships and ventured out on their own into the wilderness of singleton and are doing great...

Others picked themselves up, dusted themselves off, put on their captains'...

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What Would It Cost You?

Uncategorized Dec 14, 2020
It’s almost second nature, isn’t it? For a woman to give her all especially when she becomes a wife, more so when she becomes a mother. It happens in small ways, and in big ways...
 
It can be as simple as giving the best parts of the chicken to the husband, and the kids, or foregoing buying those amazing peep-toes in the online catalog because the kids want new toys.
 
But it can also happen in big, and profound ways.
 
For some women they get so busy that they lose touch with many friends because they manage the household, take care of the family, and hold down full-time jobs.
 
They sacrifice deep relationships with people outside their immediate family just so they can give 101% of themselves to their loved ones.
 
Often times, these women will also give up time for themselves to address every need and want that their family has - from scraped knees to broken hearts, to frustrations in the workplace to everything in...
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Why You Need To Stop Hating Your Ex Post-Divorce

Uncategorized Dec 14, 2020
Do we have to hate our Ex because he left or we chose to leave?
 
I believe we can process any situation if we put in the work. The processing gets us freedom.
 
My husband loved me and left me. He had a journey he needed to take on his own. His decision was more about what he was searching for than anything else.
 
Because I really loved him, I wanted him to be happy (even though it broke my heart) as I believe it would have been selfish of me to not give him the freedom to go and do whatever he thought he needed to do.
 
Do any of us have the right to hate them and make them wrong for making a decision in regards to how they conduct their life?
 
Can we learn to accept their decision as just being their choice and not make them wrong because it wasn't what we wanted?
 
What if we were the one making a choice that we believed was in our best interest and our husband didn't support us. What would that say about him?
 
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Have You Experienced The Type Of Love That Just Clicks?

Uncategorized Dec 11, 2020
LOVE. Love has been described as just a word until someone comes along and gives it meaning. I'm sure we've all been in love, so it's probably pretty easy to agree with that statement.
 
 
But what sort of love have you experienced to date and what sort of love will you attract next?
 
 
 
How many times have you had the familiar feeling where your heart missed a beat, you had butterflies in your stomach and you daydreamed of what maybe?
 
 
 
Did you let your imagination run wild? Where you couldn't sleep and you counted down the hours and days until you were together again?
 
 
 
 
There's nothing quite like it, is there? It's something we've all probably done, maybe once, twice, or even 3 times in our lives to date!
 
 
 
It’s been said that there are only 3 people in our lives that we fall in love with, and each of them for a given reason.
 
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