Why do some women love just having FWB?

Who has tried it?
Did it fail or succeed?
How did it end?


I think the No. 1 reason why so many people are into FWB is that they haven't taken the time to investigate what they really want and then be committed to achieving their desire.

I hear women often say that men are not into committed relationships, they are all players, they just want sex, and that they don't want anything serious... Blah blah blah.

But as women, we're often not being clear in our communications and committed to what we really wanted and how we saw that look. We're a bit like a juggler when it comes to balancing his needs and my needs.



It's like; these are my needs and what I really want, but he has these needs and if I make it too hard, he'll walk.

He tells you he just wants to be friends with benefits. He's not ready for a relationship. And you go along, say okay, you'll just do that. In that minute, you forget about your bigger vision of a lifelong partner who matches...

Has your adult child cut off communication? How do you cope?

This is something that many women of estranged adult children often ask me. It hurts and the pain can feel unbearable.


It's normal to feel deep emotional pain, anger, guilt, sadness, shame, and a host of other emotions. All are legitimate so don't feel wrong for experiencing any of these emotions.

So how do you handle it, if it's happening to you?

How you react will affect the quality of your life. While each situation is unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all cure.



Mothers of estranged adult children can get through this, find acceptance, and even peace.

I want you to know I totally understand your suffering.

Many mothers I talk to try to repair things as they are so burdened and suffer as they feel incapable of changing the situation.



They often become obsessive, reaching out by writing letters, calling, emailing, and sending texts in an attempt to find out what’s wrong and just want to try to make things right....

The problem with Coping Strategies is they are just bandaids... they just cover up the real issues and numb you to what's really going on within you.

It causes a disconnect and you can FEEL IT!

You know what is going on inside you is different to what you are showing the world - AND YOU FEEL LIKE A FRAUD!
Every day we talk to people all over who use bandaids to manage their problems but never actually solve the underlying issues.
When things aren't working in your life, it causes you to feel stuck and frustrated.
Whether you are:
- Putting on weight and can't lose it
- Trapped in a job or a business that you hate
- Always in your head with a brain that doesn't turn off
- Have struggled to have happy & meaningful relationships

You probably feel like you have been on a treadmill and take one foot forward and land on your bum, ten-foot back...

You feel like you make a bit of "progress"...and then something happens and you crash. Life just seems to throw you one thing after another, and...

What do you think it takes in order to become the “best version of you”?

Do you think that when I suggest that we all need to be better, it is diminishing or an insult?

I know people always say to “just love yourself exactly as you are” and some see it as a negative comment when I suggest that they could “change”.

It goes without saying that we should “love ourselves as we are”… but I also think that part of loving ourselves is doing what it takes to raise and adopt new levels of understanding, Education is power when it's adopted and implemented.

If you are totally happy with your life, relationship, finances, appearance and everything else, I'd say just keep doing what you are doing, as you are happy…

But is doing nothing standing still OR actually going backwards???

If you decide to just stand still, won’t the world and life continue to change and evolve around you? So, is it true to say that you wouldn’t...

Gratitude — The quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return the kindness. Today you will start a Gratitude Journal to learn how you can reap the numerous benefits of gratitude and how to create a regular gratitude journal practice.

Gratitude is a powerful emotion.

It can transform your life and open up incredible opportunities for love, joy, and success.

It shifts your perspective and helps you find the good in each and every moment.

Science tells us that an “attitude of gratitude” is a good health choice. Being more grateful more often makes us happier and more optimistic. But gratitude also adds to the bottom line – in very real ways. And the best news about gratitude is that it requires little time and no money.

Here are five reasons gratitude improves your productivity and results:

Gratitude attracts what we want. The universal law of attraction says that we will attract into our life the things we think about and focus on....

Personal Boundaries – What Are They and Why Do We Have Them…

Boundaries are the limits and rules we set for how close we allow others to get to us and how we conduct ourselves and our lives in relationship to others.

Many people have a belief that if their kids, partner and everyone else is happy, they'll be happy and they do everything within their power to make that happen – often at their own expense.

It's not true and it’s not healthy for us to live like this.

When we believe this we have poor boundaries and get caught up in other people’s problems and treat their issues as if they are our own. We set ourselves up to fail, be mistreated, manipulated or used.

We need to recognise that everyone is on their own journey and not become overly involved in other people's business and concentrate on our own lives. We need to appreciate and recognise their boundaries and not try to solve or fix them, and deal with reality, not what we'd like it to be. We...

Asking yourself if you've done enough work and Relationship Ready before stepping out is vital!

Often women jump into relationships or stumble across someone and start to date. They then spin out and are flooded by a million questions and their mind starts to go crazy.

They don’t know how to act or how to handle themselves and their emotions. All their senses are heightened, fear is pulsating through their bodies and it is a super stressful time.

They don’t know if they can trust, is he is the one, they over analyse and think about everything he says trying to work out what he means, if he likes them, is this the beginning of something or is he a liar, cheater, player or scammer…

Your old patterns will be brought up, your defences are in a state of heightened awareness and you heart and head will be in a whirlpool.

This is why it’s so important to be relationship ready and have done your work so you are prepared and equipped to handle dating and a...

I'm so proud of Joanne for graduating from The Shine Program. Congratulations Joanne.

Joanne was similar to a lot of you ladies and was ready to step out and date, but wasn't sure where to start. 

Joanne entered The Shine Program 9 weeks ago. She's now got a plan, goals and new skills which will ensure her success. 

I have no doubt 2019 is going to be a big year for her and I'm sure she'll be sharing a photo of a new magnificent man with us soon. She's worked hard and deserves everything that is on its way to her.

I thought you may be interested in her journey and join with me in congratulating her on her success. ?

This is her journey in her words:

Before the Shine Program, I was living in a state of uncertainty. I wasn’t moving forward after my divorce and felt as if I didn’t know how. I most definitely feared to step out into the dating world as I didn’t feel I knew what I wanted and most definitely worried I would pick the same type of man again. I...