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Is the Other Woman Your Enemy?

family love Jul 02, 2019

Does the thought of your kids spending time with the OW make you feel sick?

I was talking to a lady I coach yesterday who was challenged because her ex and his new girlfriend were having her kids for the weekend.

She was feeling sick and completely crushed and wanted to know how to handle it.

Have you felt like this?

It is hard to have another woman around your kids, so I had to get her to be conscious of why she was feeling this way and what she had to do so she was ok with it.

I explained that how she behaves will have consequences, and she has to get clear on what she really wants for her kids.

She loves her kids and yet, she didn't want what she knew she had to do. Through processing her own fears, she realised she didn't want them to be in an environment where they feel uncomfortable and dividing their love.

But that bought up all sorts of fears and pain for her.

She felt she owned them and didn't want to share them. It was painful, extremely painful because she had a dream of...

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Death Or Divorce… Which One Is Worse?

This is very true and also relevant after divorce.

Sometimes with divorce, it is all of this plus the fact that the person still has the ability to affect you and will continue to influence you if you allow it.

I know when there are kids and shared property involved there feels like there is no completion however once you deal with that and put some workable solutions in place, it gets better.

This brings up a lot of fear as many ladies who find themselves single worry about their security, future finances, employment, have custody concerns, contact and visitation issues etc. So you need to look after your own well-being and heal so you can confidently deal with all of these challenges.

By accepting your new reality, you can logically find and pave a way forward where you learn what you need to know to move on with your new life.

Everything changes, but it doesn't have to be a bad thing. The future can be better than you've ever had because you are now in the driver's seat! This is...

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Do You Have A Monkey Mind?

Do you have a nagging little voice in your head who is your own inner critic? Is your little voice saying nasty things about you and trying to limit what you say and do?

If you are conscious of your inner critic, you are not alone! Everyone has one and it often sabotages your success by stopping you from doing anything that it fears may be dangerous or unsafe. Whilst that's a good thing if you are in danger, it's not a great thing 90% of the time as it stops and limits you experiencing life and living in your true power.

Our inner voice is run on our fears.

Another name some people call our inner voice is our “monkey mind”. According to Buddhist principles, listening to our “monkey mind” often leaves us feeling unsettled, restless, or confused.

Your Monkey Mind is the part of your brain most connected to the ego, which contends that you can’t do anything right. It’s also the part of you that stifles healing and growth by preventing you from moving...

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Your Post Separation/Divorce Journey…

Has Your Journey Been Worth It?…. Have you Made Lemonade From Your Lemons…

At first, I was so sad, hurt and I suffered when my “Husbeen” suddenly left me…

But now I can look back and reflect on the past with gratitude and love…

How do you describe your personal journey post-divorce?

Has time healed you?

Are you happier and more confident after your divorce?

Has all your hoping and praying served you and have you moved on to create a new life?

Time doesn't always heal I know… Some people get stuck and life goes downhill after their divorce, they lose what little confidence they had and often slide into depression… They feel powerless to change and don't know how to escape the craziness… and many become victims and blame everyone else for their pain…

Looking back I describe my post-divorce journey like this;

I loved my “Husbeen” for 30 years and are so grateful for the time we had together.

I still respect...

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Do You Ghost?

So let me ask you ladies if you meet someone and have a few dates and you are not feeling he's right for you, what do you do?

Do you ghost?

Or do you also just disappear, not answer messages, say nothing, point out their shortcomings or just stop all communication???

Or do you tell him on the first date in person that you don't see any future, or do you ring or text to thank him after the date, or do you see a need to explain the reason why you aren't attracted to him and let him know that he's not for you?

These are just questions worthy of investigation, not a judgement.

Men I coach (as well as women) tell me all the time that they have been ghosted as well, so I know men are not the only ones doing the ghosting…

Sometimes it's a fear from one or either party that comes up… and many people avoid being honest and upfront because they are not confident enough to be able to understand their own feelings, analyse what's really going on, unsure of what they are really...

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Fiona May’s 6 Keys to Happiness and Success

1. Every day be working on yourself and working towards your goals.

Have a daily ritual and spend at least 30 minutes reading to grow your mind as it's one of the most valuable things you can do. Manage your time wisely and fill your mind with positive information. If you are short on time, turn off the TV and read things that are of value, nourishing, substantial and teaches you distinctions.

2. Learn to Act In Spite of Uncertainty.

Every one of these habits is important but this one is especially vital when learning to heal and grow after a loss or divorce. In a world that seems more uncertain every day, many people are afraid to take a risk of any kind. But with uncertainty comes opportunity and certainty is not a feeling, it's a habit that you can create.

Progress comes when you tell yourself the truth, and you're able to feel the uncertainty and take action anyway. Have you heard of the book, “Feel your fear, but do it anyway?” It's a great book as once we conquer...

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Are You Missing Your Ex Or Your Old Life?

Is it your Ex or your life you are missing? Here's why it's normal and why it doesn't mean anything…

Often we hold on to our past as it feels familiar, safe and it's what we know. We block out the not so good parts and often let our mind run amok by holding onto an imaginary story, and represents everything you don't want…

When you are willing to grow past your limiting beliefs and not settle for instant gratification, you’ll bring into your life exactly what you do want!

Process and practice is the only way to daily build your life, and it happens one step at a time. There are definitely things you can do to shorten this process and make it painless. You learn, grow and rest, instead of retreating.

You rest instead of isolating.

You rest instead of pulling back.

You check your mind and train it, so it says, “I need to rest now” and not “this doesn't work, I'm overwhelmed, I'm giving up, I’m going to just be single…

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Don’t Give Up Looking For Love

divorce empowered fear grow heal Apr 30, 2019

Ladies, are you looking for love? I want to encourage you to not give up on it happening for you?

I was once left by my husband. We had a business, loving family and without any discussion or warning, he was gone, just like that.

So I get it! I had to pick myself up just like you probably have had to, shell-shocked and numb, so many unanswered questions, so many why’s…, and sometimes it felt like I’d never be able to move on, heal, forgive and find another man.

But I survived – AND you will as well. My kids missed their Dad…yours probably do as well. They may not say it, they may be hurting and angry, but they miss what they lost, regardless of their age.

Even though I never thought I would, I met another amazing man and life has never been happier, and this is what I want to encourage you to hold onto.

I am very grateful and honour my marriage. We had 30 years of fun, we were best friends, we had an amazing life, worldwide adventures, built a...

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Who’s looking to find the Love of their life after Divorce?

grow heal love Apr 28, 2019

How Would You Like Me to Personally Walk You Through the Exact Process My Clients Used to Find the Love of Their Life After Divorce… Absolutely Free of Charge?

 

Dear Friend,

Let's talk about RESULTS for a second:

Every day, clients of mine get to wake up and realize they are living their dream…

The love of their life is laying next to them…

They feel completely safe, connected and adored…

They attracted conscious men into their lives and are having so much fun, travelling, holidays, and these amazing men not only love and honour them, they have hit it off with their kids and they have become a family…

They tell me they often have to pinch themselves to ensure it’s real….After years of suffering and heartache, and thinking they’d never be happy again, they are so grateful that their lives are complete.

In fact…

Over the last 12 months, so many of my Clients went from feeling completely heartbroken, lost, and unlovable...

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Are You a “Victor” of a Control Freak?

grow heal Apr 21, 2019

Control Freaks usually leave VICTIMS in their wake!

Control freaks are emotional vampires that feed on the innocence and empathy of unconsciously kind-hearted people.

I speak to many women who are kind-hearted and a bit naive and oblivious to the workings and machinations of a control freak…sometimes they marry men who have these tendencies and it causes a lot of suffering. 

Unfortunately, control freaks feel they are entitled to get whatever they desire. They are manipulative in most of their dealings and conversations, always scheming out new ways to obtain what they want from others, with little regard to how their behaviour impacts another person. 

The relationship between the control freak (predator) and their victim is parasitic in nature and often results in a codependent relationship. They love taking but hate giving. Control-freaks are vultures that feed on unwary souls and are of the illusion that the world owes them something. They approach the...

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