I was asked recently if it's normal to not be attracted to or interested in men after your divorce…
This is my answer and I thought you may find it interesting…
After separation, many women find that they are not very interested in even looking at another man. Initially, they may be heartbroken and when they look around all men they see look unappealing and you may be not attracted to any of them! That may be pretty nasty and judgemental, but it was a defence mechanism and the way most women keep themselves safe and something they do to protect themselves from being hurt again. Many rationalize that they could be just as happy on their own and they really don't need a man, so doubted they would ever be in another relationship.
In hindsight, this thinking has proved neither Right and Wrong…but there are consequences for every decision we make. Whilst we may protect ourselves, we need to also ask ourselves what is taking that stand going to cost...
Good Morning Beautiful Ladies. Here's a little reminder for you. Always remember you are beautiful, worthy and what others say and do is none of your business.
I know what you've been through as most of the Women here have a similar story, so you are in a safe place and we understand and no one judges.
Life post-separation, divorce or being widowed is a journey and takes a few things to get through it. I know everyone says it just time and you need to learn to love yourself or pray about it, and this is the answers and I agree that they are part of the answer but if it was the total answer, why are so many women continuing to suffer and become so stuck years after they were divorced or widowed?
In my experience, your pain doesn't magically go away unless you make a decision to change your mindset, grow your emotional intelligence and create a new future for yourself.
Our subconscious mind is so powerful and left unchecked, it has the ability to keep feeding you the same thoughts and...
TRUST – It's hard to give and hard to get!
by Fiona May
Transition & Relationship Coach
The only way to get TRUST is to learn to trust yourself comes first. When you step out confidently and own yourself, nothing anyone can do or say affects you. If you get to a place where you know who you are, and by knowing your strengths and weaknesses you don't allow someone else to define you. Your true essence shines through and you radiate alluring confidence that men are attracted to and find irresistible.
Anyone can get a man, but I think you shouldn't be just looking for any man… you want a magnificent, masculine man who loves and adores you and is your emotional equal.
When you are an emotionally high-value woman you know what you bring to a relationship so you don't settle for anyone who isn't at your same level.
There are emotionally intelligence men who have done their work and are looking for long-term committed relationships. You have to remember that they are...
Have you ever wondered if there is an easier way to date and find a Magnificent Man? Do you ever wonder what some Women know and you don't? How do they find amazing men whilst you seem to be stuck and either too scared to date or just keep meeting duds? If this sounds like you, it's because you probably haven't made these 3 decisions. I hope you'll get some value from this post. Fiona May
THE 3 DECISIONS THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE
There’s nothing worse to me than Women who are suffering, sad, frustrated, angry or unhappy. The great news is that it doesn't have to be this way! It's debilitating and there's no excuse for it, yet I see this phenomenon every day. It results from an unbalanced life, one with too much expectation and not enough appreciation for what they have.
Without love, gratitude and appreciation for what you already have, you’ll never know true fulfilment. But how do you cultivate this balance in your life? What’s the point of living if...
If you ever find yourself thinking about your ex, read on…
Every minute you spend one minute thinking about him is one minute you are not spending time thinking about yourself and your future. It's crazy and you literally have to growl at yourself and choose a different thought every time your mind goes there.
He's controlling your thoughts because you are allowing him to and whenever you do it, you are getting a payoff. That's why people stay stuck. Your payoff is a reward and the thought that he may be unhappy, or karma will catch up with him or he'll come back or he's sorry and suffering – but it's just you wanting to be right and make him wrong.
Whilst you hold onto the judgement you can never be free.
Every time you find yourself thinking about him, STOP yourself by choosing a different thought and focus on something you can do in that minute that will benefit yourself.
You just have to accept the reality of the situation and you don't have to understand it, or get...
Standing in your own power, loving yourself and being authentic and confident is the biggest turn on for a conscious man.
He wants to see those radiant qualities of yours – the same as you want him to show up in all his greatness.
But how do you believe in yourself, when you have so much self-doubt because of your past? How do you heal and get to a place of being open, loving and not have a wall around your heart?
It's a journey, it takes work but it's so worth it!
To have a man who loves you and sees your soul, is your No.1 supporter and pushes you to be the best you can be is the most amazing feeling ever.
That's why I encourage you ladies to work on yourselves so when you show up, you've put all your past hurts and disappointments behind you and you clearly know what you want and what you are prepared to give.
My heart breaks when I see so many women settling for being single… when I know the REAL TRUTH is that they would love to be in a committed relationship,...
Everyone says “just Love Yourself” but its easier said than done… The problem is that most Women does even know how and most have forgotten who they once were!
They were once funny, happy, playful, trusting, inquisitive, adventurous, and started off their life journey as an excited little girl, who had big dreams, goals and desires.
But sadly, over time everything that those little girls knew and wanted was slowly chipped away at and their self-esteem and beliefs started to fade.
It happens slowly, bit by bit as they listen to what they are being told, hear, see and eventually they just accept how they are being treated.
It usually takes a life-changing event for them to stop and the come to the sheer realisation that they don't now know who they are and they feel lost. This brings them to a point of recognising that the hopes and dreams they once held and aspired to, who they thought they'd grow up to be, isn't the women they see when they look in the mirror.