What do you think it takes in order to become the “best version of you”?
Do you think that when I suggest that we all need to be better, it is diminishing or an insult?
I know people always say to “just love yourself exactly as you are” and some see it as a negative comment when I suggest that they could “change”.
It goes without saying that we should “love ourselves as we are”… but I also think that part of loving ourselves is doing what it takes to raise and adopt new levels of understanding, Education is power when it's adopted and implemented.
If you are totally happy with your life, relationship, finances, appearance and everything else, I'd say just keep doing what you are doing, as you are happy…
But is doing nothing standing still OR actually going backwards???
If you decide to just stand still, won’t the world and life continue to change and evolve around you? So, is it true to say that you wouldn’t...
Gratitude — The quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return the kindness. Today you will start a Gratitude Journal to learn how you can reap the numerous benefits of gratitude and how to create a regular gratitude journal practice.
It can transform your life and open up incredible opportunities for love, joy, and success.
It shifts your perspective and helps you find the good in each and every moment.
Science tells us that an “attitude of gratitude” is a good health choice. Being more grateful more often makes us happier and more optimistic. But gratitude also adds to the bottom line – in very real ways. And the best news about gratitude is that it requires little time and no money.
Here are five reasons gratitude improves your productivity and results:
Gratitude attracts what we want. The universal law of attraction says that we will attract into our life the things we think about and focus on....
Personal Boundaries – What Are They and Why Do We Have Them…
Boundaries are the limits and rules we set for how close we allow others to get to us and how we conduct ourselves and our lives in relationship to others.
Many people have a belief that if their kids, partner and everyone else is happy, they'll be happy and they do everything within their power to make that happen – often at their own expense.
It's not true and it’s not healthy for us to live like this.
When we believe this we have poor boundaries and get caught up in other people’s problems and treat their issues as if they are our own. We set ourselves up to fail, be mistreated, manipulated or used.
We need to recognise that everyone is on their own journey and not become overly involved in other people's business and concentrate on our own lives. We need to appreciate and recognise their boundaries and not try to solve or fix them, and deal with reality, not what we'd like it to be. We...
I'm so proud of Joanne for graduating from The Shine Program. Congratulations Joanne.
Joanne was similar to a lot of you ladies and was ready to step out and date, but wasn't sure where to start.
Joanne entered The Shine Program 9 weeks ago. She's now got a plan, goals and new skills which will ensure her success.
I have no doubt 2019 is going to be a big year for her and I'm sure she'll be sharing a photo of a new magnificent man with us soon. She's worked hard and deserves everything that is on its way to her.
I thought you may be interested in her journey and join with me in congratulating her on her success. ?
This is her journey in her words:
Before the Shine Program, I was living in a state of uncertainty. I wasn’t moving forward after my divorce and felt as if I didn’t know how. I most definitely feared to step out into the dating world as I didn’t feel I knew what I wanted and most definitely worried I would pick the same type of man again. I...
Do you have a nagging little voice in your head who is your own inner critic? Is your little voice saying nasty things about you and trying to limit what you say and do?
If you are conscious of your inner critic, you are not alone! Everyone has one and it often sabotages your success by stopping you from doing anything that it fears may be dangerous or unsafe. Whilst that's a good thing if you are in danger, it's not a great thing 90% of the time as it stops and limits you experiencing life and living in your true power.
Our inner voice is run on our fears.
Another name some people call our inner voice is our “monkey mind”. According to Buddhist principles, listening to our “monkey mind” often leaves us feeling unsettled, restless, or confused.
Your Monkey Mind is the part of your brain most connected to the ego, which contends that you can’t do anything right. It’s also the part of you that stifles healing and growth by preventing you from moving...
Has Your Journey Been Worth It?…. Have you Made Lemonade From Your Lemons…
At first, I was so sad, hurt and I suffered when my “Husbeen” suddenly left me…
But now I can look back and reflect on the past with gratitude and love…
How do you describe your personal journey post-divorce?
Has time healed you?
Are you happier and more confident after your divorce?
Has all your hoping and praying served you and have you moved on to create a new life?
Time doesn't always heal I know… Some people get stuck and life goes downhill after their divorce, they lose what little confidence they had and often slide into depression… They feel powerless to change and don't know how to escape the craziness… and many become victims and blame everyone else for their pain…
Looking back I describe my post-divorce journey like this;
I loved my “Husbeen” for 30 years and are so grateful for the time we had together.
I still respect...
So let me ask you ladies if you meet someone and have a few dates and you are not feeling he's right for you, what do you do?
Do you ghost?
Or do you also just disappear, not answer messages, say nothing, point out their shortcomings or just stop all communication???
Or do you tell him on the first date in person that you don't see any future, or do you ring or text to thank him after the date, or do you see a need to explain the reason why you aren't attracted to him and let him know that he's not for you?
These are just questions worthy of investigation, not a judgement.
Men I coach (as well as women) tell me all the time that they have been ghosted as well, so I know men are not the only ones doing the ghosting…
Sometimes it's a fear from one or either party that comes up… and many people avoid being honest and upfront because they are not confident enough to be able to understand their own feelings, analyse what's really going on, unsure of what they are really...
1. Every day be working on yourself and working towards your goals.
Have a daily ritual and spend at least 30 minutes reading to grow your mind as it's one of the most valuable things you can do. Manage your time wisely and fill your mind with positive information. If you are short on time, turn off the TV and read things that are of value, nourishing, substantial and teaches you distinctions.
2. Learn to Act In Spite of Uncertainty.
Every one of these habits is important but this one is especially vital when learning to heal and grow after a loss or divorce. In a world that seems more uncertain every day, many people are afraid to take a risk of any kind. But with uncertainty comes opportunity and certainty is not a feeling, it's a habit that you can create.
Progress comes when you tell yourself the truth, and you're able to feel the uncertainty and take action anyway. Have you heard of the book, “Feel your fear, but do it anyway?” It's a great book as once we conquer...
Is it your Ex or your life you are missing? Here's why it's normal and why it doesn't mean anything…
Often we hold on to our past as it feels familiar, safe and it's what we know. We block out the not so good parts and often let our mind run amok by holding onto an imaginary story, and represents everything you don't want…
When you are willing to grow past your limiting beliefs and not settle for instant gratification, you’ll bring into your life exactly what you do want!
Process and practice is the only way to daily build your life, and it happens one step at a time. There are definitely things you can do to shorten this process and make it painless. You learn, grow and rest, instead of retreating.
You rest instead of isolating.
You rest instead of pulling back.
You check your mind and train it, so it says, “I need to rest now” and not “this doesn't work, I'm overwhelmed, I'm giving up, I’m going to just be single…
I'd hate to see...
Ladies, are you looking for love? I want to encourage you to not give up on it happening for you?
I was once left by my husband. We had a business, loving family and without any discussion or warning, he was gone, just like that.
So I get it! I had to pick myself up just like you probably have had to, shell-shocked and numb, so many unanswered questions, so many why’s…, and sometimes it felt like I’d never be able to move on, heal, forgive and find another man.
But I survived – AND you will as well. My kids missed their Dad…yours probably do as well. They may not say it, they may be hurting and angry, but they miss what they lost, regardless of their age.
Even though I never thought I would, I met another amazing man and life has never been happier, and this is what I want to encourage you to hold onto.
I am very grateful and honour my marriage. We had 30 years of fun, we were best friends, we had an amazing life, worldwide adventures, built a...