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SOLVE THE PROBLEM - DON'T JUST LEARN TO COPE!

The problem with Coping Strategies is they are just bandaids... they just cover up the real issues and numb you to what's really going on within you.

It causes a disconnect and you can FEEL IT!

You know what is going on inside you is different to what you are showing the world - AND YOU FEEL LIKE A FRAUD!
Every day we talk to people all over who use bandaids to manage their problems but never actually solve the underlying issues.
When things aren't working in your life, it causes you to feel stuck and frustrated.
Whether you are:
- Putting on weight and can't lose it
- Trapped in a job or a business that you hate
- Always in your head with a brain that doesn't turn off
- Have struggled to have happy & meaningful relationships


You probably feel like you have been on a treadmill and take one foot forward and land on your bum, ten-foot back...

You feel like you make a bit of "progress"...and then something happens and you crash. Life just seems to throw you one thing after another, and...

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How To Be The Best Version Of You!

fear grow love Jul 28, 2019

What do you think it takes in order to become the “best version of you”?

Do you think that when I suggest that we all need to be better, it is diminishing or an insult?

I know people always say to “just love yourself exactly as you are” and some see it as a negative comment when I suggest that they could “change”.

It goes without saying that we should “love ourselves as we are”… but I also think that part of loving ourselves is doing what it takes to raise and adopt new levels of understanding, Education is power when it's adopted and implemented.

If you are totally happy with your life, relationship, finances, appearance and everything else, I'd say just keep doing what you are doing, as you are happy…

But is doing nothing standing still OR actually going backwards???

If you decide to just stand still, won’t the world and life continue to change and evolve around you? So, is it true to say that you wouldn’t...

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Personal Boundaries – What Are They And Why Do We Have Them

Personal Boundaries – What Are They and Why Do We Have Them…

Boundaries are the limits and rules we set for how close we allow others to get to us and how we conduct ourselves and our lives in relationship to others.

Many people have a belief that if their kids, partner and everyone else is happy, they'll be happy and they do everything within their power to make that happen – often at their own expense.

It's not true and it’s not healthy for us to live like this.

When we believe this we have poor boundaries and get caught up in other people’s problems and treat their issues as if they are our own. We set ourselves up to fail, be mistreated, manipulated or used.

We need to recognise that everyone is on their own journey and not become overly involved in other people's business and concentrate on our own lives. We need to appreciate and recognise their boundaries and not try to solve or fix them, and deal with reality, not what we'd like it to be. We...

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Are You Relationship Ready?

Asking yourself if you've done enough work and Relationship Ready before stepping out is vital!

Often women jump into relationships or stumble across someone and start to date. They then spin out and are flooded by a million questions and their mind starts to go crazy.

They don’t know how to act or how to handle themselves and their emotions. All their senses are heightened, fear is pulsating through their bodies and it is a super stressful time.

They don’t know if they can trust, is he is the one, they over analyse and think about everything he says trying to work out what he means, if he likes them, is this the beginning of something or is he a liar, cheater, player or scammer…

Your old patterns will be brought up, your defences are in a state of heightened awareness and you heart and head will be in a whirlpool.

This is why it’s so important to be relationship ready and have done your work so you are prepared and equipped to handle dating and a...

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Joanne’s Journey Through The Shine Program…

I'm so proud of Joanne for graduating from The Shine Program. Congratulations Joanne.

Joanne was similar to a lot of you ladies and was ready to step out and date, but wasn't sure where to start. 

Joanne entered The Shine Program 9 weeks ago. She's now got a plan, goals and new skills which will ensure her success. 

I have no doubt 2019 is going to be a big year for her and I'm sure she'll be sharing a photo of a new magnificent man with us soon. She's worked hard and deserves everything that is on its way to her.

I thought you may be interested in her journey and join with me in congratulating her on her success. ?

This is her journey in her words:

Before the Shine Program, I was living in a state of uncertainty. I wasn’t moving forward after my divorce and felt as if I didn’t know how. I most definitely feared to step out into the dating world as I didn’t feel I knew what I wanted and most definitely worried I would pick the same type of man again. I...

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Is the Other Woman Your Enemy?

family love Jul 02, 2019

Does the thought of your kids spending time with the OW make you feel sick?

I was talking to a lady I coach yesterday who was challenged because her ex and his new girlfriend were having her kids for the weekend.

She was feeling sick and completely crushed and wanted to know how to handle it.

Have you felt like this?

It is hard to have another woman around your kids, so I had to get her to be conscious of why she was feeling this way and what she had to do so she was ok with it.

I explained that how she behaves will have consequences, and she has to get clear on what she really wants for her kids.

She loves her kids and yet, she didn't want what she knew she had to do. Through processing her own fears, she realised she didn't want them to be in an environment where they feel uncomfortable and dividing their love.

But that bought up all sorts of fears and pain for her.

She felt she owned them and didn't want to share them. It was painful, extremely painful because she had a dream of...

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Your Post Separation/Divorce Journey…

Has Your Journey Been Worth It?…. Have you Made Lemonade From Your Lemons…

At first, I was so sad, hurt and I suffered when my “Husbeen” suddenly left me…

But now I can look back and reflect on the past with gratitude and love…

How do you describe your personal journey post-divorce?

Has time healed you?

Are you happier and more confident after your divorce?

Has all your hoping and praying served you and have you moved on to create a new life?

Time doesn't always heal I know… Some people get stuck and life goes downhill after their divorce, they lose what little confidence they had and often slide into depression… They feel powerless to change and don't know how to escape the craziness… and many become victims and blame everyone else for their pain…

Looking back I describe my post-divorce journey like this;

I loved my “Husbeen” for 30 years and are so grateful for the time we had together.

I still respect...

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Do You Ghost?

So let me ask you ladies if you meet someone and have a few dates and you are not feeling he's right for you, what do you do?

Do you ghost?

Or do you also just disappear, not answer messages, say nothing, point out their shortcomings or just stop all communication???

Or do you tell him on the first date in person that you don't see any future, or do you ring or text to thank him after the date, or do you see a need to explain the reason why you aren't attracted to him and let him know that he's not for you?

These are just questions worthy of investigation, not a judgement.

Men I coach (as well as women) tell me all the time that they have been ghosted as well, so I know men are not the only ones doing the ghosting…

Sometimes it's a fear from one or either party that comes up… and many people avoid being honest and upfront because they are not confident enough to be able to understand their own feelings, analyse what's really going on, unsure of what they are really...

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Who’s looking to find the Love of their life after Divorce?

grow heal love Apr 28, 2019

How Would You Like Me to Personally Walk You Through the Exact Process My Clients Used to Find the Love of Their Life After Divorce… Absolutely Free of Charge?

 

Dear Friend,

Let's talk about RESULTS for a second:

Every day, clients of mine get to wake up and realize they are living their dream…

The love of their life is laying next to them…

They feel completely safe, connected and adored…

They attracted conscious men into their lives and are having so much fun, travelling, holidays, and these amazing men not only love and honour them, they have hit it off with their kids and they have become a family…

They tell me they often have to pinch themselves to ensure it’s real….After years of suffering and heartache, and thinking they’d never be happy again, they are so grateful that their lives are complete.

In fact…

Over the last 12 months, so many of my Clients went from feeling completely heartbroken, lost, and unlovable...

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Is It Normal To Not Be Interested In Men?

divorce grow heal love Apr 14, 2019

I was asked recently if it's normal to not be attracted to or interested in men after your divorce…

This is my answer and I thought you may find it interesting…

After separation, many women find that they are not very interested in even looking at another man.  Initially, they may be heartbroken and when they look around all men they see look unappealing and you may be not attracted to any of them!  That may be pretty nasty and judgemental, but it was a defence mechanism and the way most women keep themselves safe and something they do to protect themselves from being hurt again.  Many rationalize that they could be just as happy on their own and they really don't need a man, so doubted they would ever be in another relationship.

In hindsight, this thinking has proved neither Right and Wrong…but there are consequences for every decision we make. Whilst we may protect ourselves, we need to also ask ourselves what is taking that stand going to cost...

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